Mental Health, mindfulness, personaldevelopment, psychology, Social Science, Spirtuality, wellness

A New Year Can Be Your New Start

Happy New Year!
A new year.
A fresh start.
Around this time, most of us make resolutions. Resolutions of changes we want to make or goals we would like to achieve in the coming year.  It’s a new year and in our minds we believe it’s a clean slate. Silly of us to think a year ending would also end our bad habits. Some of us succeed at these resolutions but many fail. Many fail because committing to the work it entails to complete these goals is usually a difficult task for the individual trying.  Completing goals such as losing weight, finding a new job, or a new love relationship requires great strength, focus, determination, and the desire to commit to you. How do you commit to yourself you may ask? Committing to yourself is the act of taking yourself seriously; realizing your worth, and not settling till you get what you are entitled to. So many settle for less. Inside they know something just doesn’t feel quite right but they choose not to listen. Hearing the voice and doing nothing about it is truly a crime. But, fear of success or failure can get the best of us.
It’s worse when an individual is oblivious to their inner guidance. These individuals hear nothing. No call to action. Like zombies they walk around feeling as if they have no purpose. We all have a purpose. Not realizing your true purpose or your calling is a disservice to humanity. We must be in tune to our minds, bodies, and soul in order to be aware of the guidance. Without fear we can then pursue our life’s purpose.
Why do some choose less when it does not make them happy? Is this the easy way? Ask yourself if you are choosing the easy way out? This is the year to sit back and reflect. Can I do better? Do I have more in me? For me, pushing myself to the limit is the only way. Embracing challenges, being in service to others,  and seeing the fruits of my labor brings a joy like no other. I find being comfortable difficult.
If comfort brings happiness to you then maybe you are where you need to be. These words are not for you. I am speaking to the individuals who have that little voice inside of them. This voice is pushing them to do more or to be more. To push just a little harder. It’s you who I write to. To all of you who hear that voice…this can be the year you resolve to be more and resolve to be better.
Make this your year to push a little harder.

Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem

Hello all! I hope you are enjoying your afternoon. I want to discuss something today that I feel is of great importance.
The differences between self-worth and self-esteem. Although these two are related as cousins would be, they are not quite the same. I have heard many people state these phrases as if they are interchangeable though. So what are the differences? Self-esteem is based on the confidence we have in our abilities. While self-worth is how much we value ourselves or how much we actually believe we deserve these abilities. I like to use an example to demonstrate these differences. Let’s say you are a student who is studying for a test. The test comes around and you feel confident in your abilities to do well. You receive the test back and what do you know? You received a perfect score. It was your abilities that helped you get the score. But you can’t help but wonder if you truly deserved this score? Let’s say some of your thoughts could range from you thinking you deserve to pass but don’t believe you deserved a perfect score. Or possibly you may wonder why you got a better score than your classmate Sara , who clearly deserves more than you.
I have found through my practice that a lot of clients of mine who struggle with the need to reach perfection struggle with self-worth issues. Sometimes as children they were told that they were not good enough or didn’t deserve. These views were sometimes views other family members shared and were passed down to children when they were most vulnerable (usually before the age of 5 years old).
So as you can see, these two work together but are very different. An individual may have a sense of self-esteem but that won’t always translate to a high sense of self-worth.
So as I wrap-up, there is something I’d like to ask you? Sort of like some food for thought. Do you struggle with self-worth issues? Do you find yourself trying to figure out how to correct them?