Mental Health, mentalhealth, mindfulness, personaldevelopment, psychology, Social Science, Spirtuality

Find your purpose? Be in Service.

Do you feel as if your life has purpose? This is a question I often present to others. I present it because a purposeful life is what creates a happy life. Let me explain. Often, we seek relationships, shopping habits, drinking habits, extra jobs, jobs we hate, or other vices due to our search for purpose. We fill our empty world with empty activities. We believe these activities will help us move closer to feeling fulfillment or love. We believe these activities will numb the empty void we feel inside of us. Instead, it is through helping others we no longer feel the void. We can feel fulfilled inside by serving others. Helping others helps us find happiness. It is that simple.

How does helping others, help you? This is how.

-YOU WILL FIND A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE AND DETACH. We are always consumed by our own lives. We focus on our problems thinking the more attached we are the quicker we figure out the solution. But, this idea can’t be further from the truth. The more we fret, the more we lose perspective. When we focus on others we detach from our own problems just enough to allow for sorting out. Taking the intense focus off the matter can be exactly what you need to develop a fresh idea or solutions regarding it.

-YOU WILL ALIGN WITH THE SOURCE.  Most of us believe in a source. This source can be a god, universe, or some other energy that exists to help guide us. Being in service gives us a direct line to the energy and guidance of the source. We are here on this earth to accomplish something. Each one of us has a purpose that is unique and ready to be embraced. And unless we are in direct connection with the knowledge of the source, we will have difficulty figuring this out. To do this, we must remain open and embrace a personal life goal to make our mark on the world. This mark is different for everyone. You can find your mark by spreading love and placing yourself in service to others.

-YOU WILL FIND THE SUPPORT OF OTHERS. Others love being a part of service. People get behind causes that are important to them. When you are in direct alignment with the source you get the support of others. When you are linked to the source the causes that are important to you are given to you by the source. Others will feel your passion. They will feel the absolute energy of the source coming through you and to your cause. They will be motivated to get behind you.

-LIVE YOUR TRUTH, FIND YOUR HAPPINESS. Most of us think we know who we are. Surprise! You may not. Most of pursue goals we think we should or become what others expect us to be. Most of us never pursue who we really are. There are many excuses, Lack of awareness, or fear. But, as soon as you try to align yourself with the source, glimpses of your truth will appear. The fear will slowly begin to fade. You will find that exploring that person or expressing that person feels really right. Soon you will want to be nothing but that person. The individual linked to the source. YOUR TRUE SELF!

So, what are you waiting for? Place yourself in service to find your purpose. Live the happy life you are meant to live.

Mental Health, Social Science

What is the price of love?

Every so often I like to take a trip into good old NYC. Nothing like NYC to help you gain motivation in your life. The speed of this big city is very quick. Walking around, even the most accomplishment person can wonder if they are achieving enough in their life. Sometimes I like to sit down at a cafe with a drink and write. Recently I decided it was time for a NYC adventure again. Took my seat at a Starbucks and began to focus. I was deep and focused, when a pack of dogs walked by. A dog walker was walking them. The expressions on the faces of some of the dogs were intense and distracting as they rushed by. So intent on what they were trying to accomplish. They had a job to do and they were going to do it. It was interesting to see these dogs work so well in a group. Each one was no longer an individual. They were now functioning group members.

Group Mentality is such an interesting subject to me. I find it interesting because my whole life’s goal has been to find strength within my developed individuality. But how well did I work in the group? We are trained throughout life to stay within the confines of the group. A view that dates back to the beginning of time. We go to school and follow a schedule that resembles closely what are lives should look like as functional and productive¬†group members in society. We follow a religion in order to be part of a group, in order to be loved and accepted and to indulge in the social constructs of belonging as a member of society. Because after all, our ultimate goal in life is to be loved.

But to me this price is just way too steep. Must I sacrifice myself in order for you to love me? Or can I be a whole person and find your acceptance? So many of us with so many holes. We were trained to seek solace in others. Why are we trained to seek validation from others and not ourselves?

Not that it bothers me too much but leaving the confines of the group usually leads to criticism. Criticism because the person choosing individuality puts the security of the group in jeopardy. Another view that dates back to the beginning of time and most likely rooted in the reptile brain (the lower part of the brain that responds to fear). We were conditioned to function this way but in a healthy way, just like the pack of dogs. It just seems like we have lost that balance. So many people giving their power away instead of claiming the power of their own individuality. Do you struggle with the fine balance of individuality vs. group?

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